Early Winter??

The days are getting shorter. There seems to be a chill in air!
The prediction so far is that winter will be early and be a bad one, AGAIN! 
The summer has been really mild.  We had very few really hot days.  Still had days warm enough for swimming and enjoying camping and etc.
I have already cleaned up the yard. Cleaned the back deck off.  I have moved the gas grill out of the weather. The only thing I have left to do is clean the tomato vines out of the flower bed.  Will wait until the last minute for that, as I still have green tomatoes to ripen.
I made salsa and jelly out of green tomatoes yesterday.  I have made jelly using zucchini but never green tomatoes.  We will see how that turns out.
Today I need to can the ripe tomatoes. I am slowly running out of jars. I will need to buy or find someone who doesn't need them anymore.

Made a Decision!

I have decided to retire at 62. I am trying to get things in order to accomplish this. I am working on an online business. I know most of the things online are a lot of hype and scams but this truly is a different kind of one.

I sponsored my first affiliate yesterday! Thank you Sue!

I have placed ads and waiting to see which sources work and which do not.

I am not feeling up to par today. I am going to take it easy today. Will get cracking tomorrow…..

Deb

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Back in November 2003, this mother and father had a litter of very cute puppies.  Their breeder lived in St. Louis. After the puppies were born, Gloria brought them into her basement and there they stayed until each one found a loving home. 
Gloria placed the puppies in a room off the main basement. They were paper trained. The room was NEVER dirty. You could walk in and sit down on a bench and play with all of them.
It was very hard to decide which one I wanted. They were all adorable as could be! I finally decided on one that had two white socks on his front paws.  He also liked to shred the newspaper on the floor!
I would go visit often and finally could take him home when he was 9 weeks old.
He was a big ball of fuzzy fur! 
His formal name for AKC is Sir Nicholas Cody.  Cody was his fathers name.
Today, he is not so little anymore...He weighs 130 pounds.  He was only raised around me. So he doesn't care too much for men. 
He is a very good protector....He lets me know if anyone is in his space. He doesn't like children that tease him.  He loves to sit outside in the cool of the morning. 
He is not a dog for everyone.  Most people are intimidated by him. 
He is my best friend! 

Here is a pic of Nikki as he looks now

Where Do They Go?

When I was trying to gather my thoughts for this post, I was thinking and wondering if there were certains places or areas that would be preferred to take one's life.
I came across this article and felt this Mother's pain. Please read this story. What could be worse than loosing your child in this manner? See how this Mother and her family, friends find peace in Jesus Christ.

http://www.jaredstory.com/suicide_and_death4.html

How Too......

I have decided that I will NOT aide anyone to take their own life!
I figure there is always an answer if you look hard enough. I have never been to the point that I figure there is no return either. I found an article you can read if you so choose to.

http://www.newhopehealthclinic.com/painless_methods_of_how_to_commit_suicide.htm



Best Regards
Deb

Why do People commit Sucide?

One thing we all must realize is that each of us, as a person, are not alike. Meaning, we are not all able to handle situations in life the same. Why?  What I may be able to handle in life will differ from someone else. People who kill themselves see this as the only remaining solutions to their problems. Researchers believe this maybe connected to biological and chemical imbalances.

Some reasons that drive people to this solution is loss of job, divorce, break up with a loved one, lost of a loved one. They also say though, these are not the reasons for suicide, these are only "triggers."

Ninety percent of people who commit suicide have a mental or substance abuse disorder( or both). More than half are seriously or clinically depressed.
Serious or major depression is a long-lasting sadness that doesn't let up for two weeks or more.

Some signs of depression are:

• Sadness and crying.
• Feeling tired all the time or complaining of having no energy.
• Changes in appetite or sleep.
• Loss of interest in doing things.
• Trouble thinking or concentrating.
• Spending more time alone.
• Feeling hopeless or worthless.
• Having suicidal thoughts.

Most people who drink do not kill themselves, but 20 to 25 percent of people who kill themselves are intoxicated.  Alcohol lowers self-control and increases impulsive behavior.

Other people who are at risk are people with chronic pain or a chronic illness. Older people are prone to this type of depression and can be a suicide risk. They can be helped by medication, pain management, counseling and family support.

What can we do?  Just be aware of the people you are around on a daily basis. Check on older family members. Visit with them and look for any signs of strange behavior. 

I know its hard these days, when the emphasis is placed on "me".......but let us think of the other people in our lives.  After they leave this world, you can't change anything! 

I just want to spare you the grief and living each day wondering if you could have done something to change it.  You have to learn to live with it and continue to live!

Information came from Hands on Health in South Carolina.
Thank you for your research.
Deb

The Family

 The week of the funeral, I literally walked in a fog. The day of the funeral I talked to people and to this day, I do not remember who was there.

By now the reality of the whole situation is sinking to everyone. We all wonder what did we do? What could we have done? Is this my fault? Then I was sure that I should have done something else different, then the outcome would have been different.

The family must work through guilt on an individual basis. Everyone deals with death in their own way. Me, it took me 10 years or more. One thing I did that was very bad for my health was to eat to comfort my mind, body and soul. Over the years I gained so much weight that I was almost wheelchair bound. I could not even do my own housework!

To this day, my sons have not totally come to terms with his death. They have lived through their own private hell trying to understand why their Dad would do such a thing!

In the end we must all move on and continue living. Please remember one thing, the person that chooses to take their life has no idea of the turmoil and pain they cause for their family.
In therapy, I was told they only focus on themselves and completing their goal.  No one can stop them at this point, once they make up their minds. The act of taking their life is being very selfish! They only think of themselves and no one else.
 
I will do some research and see what the experts say about "why" people take their lives.
Remember if you have any comments or question, feel free to email me at helpvictimsofsuicide.hotmail.com
 
Have a blessed Day!
Deb

Where were you in 1993?

It is an ordinary work day. I worked for the Dept of Corrections in Missouri as a Correctional Officer. Yes, me!


It is the end of September, winter is approaching. We always went on a week trail ride with our horses. This year was different. My husband and I are divorced. He was supposed to be back at work, the ride was over for the year.

His supervisors at work were wondering where he was because he did not call in and say he would not be at work. I got permission to leave and went to the house where we had lived together. It seemed that nothing was wrong. I expected to find him. But as I went from room to room, I found his personal items that should have been on him.

The last place I looked was in the barn, the horses were in their stalls. As I walked back to the house, something made me look inside the camper. As I tried to open the door, it was tied with a bungee cord from the inside. When I finally got the cord off, there sat my husband on the floor dead.......

It has been 17 years since that day. There has never been a day, and never will be a day that I will ever forget about it. He hit 40 years of age and things went down hill from there. There are many other factors that contributed to his decision.

You might wonder why I would tell such a personal tragedy? I hope with my willingness to talk about this issue that maybe it will help someone else. Be aware of your friends, family or any loved one....If you see strange behavior then make someone else aware of it. GET some kind of help!

The pain does not end when that person leaves this earth, it is only beginning.....The family and friends around that person suffers and has to work through what has taken place. The immediate family has to deal with the death and then with the guilt that creeps into their minds.

In the coming days, I will try and give you some facts and answer some questions you might have. If you have questions or want to share privately you may contact me at this email address: helpvictimsofsuicide@hotmail.com. I may not have answers for you but maybe I can point you in the right direction.

I need to mention one other thing, I DO NOT pretend to know anything and everything about suicide. I am no professional. I can only share with you, my experiences and what I have learned. I will research and try to attempt to give you some helps for you.

The one thing I know you need to do is pray......for guidance, wisdom, peace, and understanding!