The Family

 The week of the funeral, I literally walked in a fog. The day of the funeral I talked to people and to this day, I do not remember who was there.

By now the reality of the whole situation is sinking to everyone. We all wonder what did we do? What could we have done? Is this my fault? Then I was sure that I should have done something else different, then the outcome would have been different.

The family must work through guilt on an individual basis. Everyone deals with death in their own way. Me, it took me 10 years or more. One thing I did that was very bad for my health was to eat to comfort my mind, body and soul. Over the years I gained so much weight that I was almost wheelchair bound. I could not even do my own housework!

To this day, my sons have not totally come to terms with his death. They have lived through their own private hell trying to understand why their Dad would do such a thing!

In the end we must all move on and continue living. Please remember one thing, the person that chooses to take their life has no idea of the turmoil and pain they cause for their family.
In therapy, I was told they only focus on themselves and completing their goal.  No one can stop them at this point, once they make up their minds. The act of taking their life is being very selfish! They only think of themselves and no one else.
 
I will do some research and see what the experts say about "why" people take their lives.
Remember if you have any comments or question, feel free to email me at helpvictimsofsuicide.hotmail.com
 
Have a blessed Day!
Deb